Few parts of the female body have been debated, explored, and pursued—by men and women as much as the elusive G-spot. Some experts describe the G-spot as an area of increased sensitivity and erotic pleasure located in the vagina, while others deny its existence entirely.
First, a little background. The G-spot gets its name from one of the first doctors to describe it in medical literature, Ernst Gräfenberg a German physician and scientist who also studied women’s orgasms and developed an early version of today’s intrauterine device (IUD).
In 1950, Gräfenberg wrote about “an erotic zone [that] could be demonstrated on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra,” and that “this particular area was more easily stimulated by the finger than the other areas of the vagina.” It wasn’t until the 1980s, however, that other researchers bestowed his name to the now-famous spot.
Gräfenberg wasn't the first to write about this erogenous zone, though. Similar mentions date all the way back to 11th century India, according to a 2012 review in the Journal of Sexual Health.
Is the G-spot real?
The evidence is a bit mysterious because the “spot” doesn’t appear to be a distinct structure, but, rather, a cluster of nerves and tissue that engorges or changes in sensation when aroused. And not all women feel it. Some women feel extreme pleasure when the spot is stimulated, but others, not a thing.
Where is it?
The G-spot is on the roof of the vagina at about 12 o’clock when the woman is lying on her back. It is about 2.5-3 inches in the vagina, directly below her urethra. The angle for self-exploration is essentially backward for the woman so the location makes it nearly impossible to discover the spot with her own fingers.
Does every woman have it?
Essentially, yes. But the degree of sexual sensation in the spot varies widely from woman to woman and can vary even within the same woman depending on the timing of arousal, time of day, time of month, and season of life.
Best technique to touch it.
Fingers provide the best access. If you are firmly but gently using a “come-hither” curl to your stroke you might feel a slight increase in firmness about the size of a quarter.
It's located at this point in the vagina
The G-spot can be found along the inner, front wall of the vagina—the top wall if a woman is laying on her back. “It’s a few inches up, about a third of the way, although it varies from person to person,” says Dr. Berman.
"Every woman is built relatively the same,” she adds, “but our anatomies can be different depending on our age, how many babies we’ve had, and our genetics.” For some women, the G-spot is a bit higher, while for others it may be closer to the vaginal opening.
But your G-spot can be tricky to find
A woman may be able to feel out her own G-spot by hand, says Dr. Berman, by exploring the upper, inner wall of her vagina with a finger or two. “It feels a bit rougher, kind of like an orange peel,” she says, “and sometimes it can be pulled back in the fold, so you might have to fish around a bit.” If you're on the hunt for your G-spot and then start to feel uncomfortable stroking or pressing on the anterior wall, or you suddenly feel an urgent need to urinate, don't panic; it's actually normal. Meanwhile, some women touching this area won’t feel anything at all. “But for many women, in the context of sexual relations, it’s extremely pleasurable,” she says.
The G-spot may be easier to pinpoint with erotic toys that are angled upward and designed to (literally) hit the spot. Certain sexual positions, like having a woman on top at a 45-degree angle, can also help. “It can be hard to reach it yourself, so I would encourage women to also experiment with toys and with their partners,” says Dr. Berman.
How do I know I’m touching the right spot?
Some lovers report that they can’t feel any tissue differential with their fingers. Your female partner may report a delightful sensation guiding you to the correct area. Or she may say that she feels the need to urinate – this means you are at the right spot but at the wrong time. She will need considerably more general arousal before her body will translate this same touch as sexually pleasurable.
Can intercourse provide G-spot stimulation?
Yes, and certain positions bring the penis into contact with the G-spot more than others. Two ways to try: 1) woman lying on her back with her legs curled uptilts her pelvis, or 2) woman on top at a 45-degree angle. Both positions are also more likely to cause a vaginal-contact orgasm.
What if I (the woman) don’t feel anything?
Ask for stimulation immediately prior to orgasm. You might also try a G-spot stimulator sex toy to see if you can find it on your own in a no-pressure environment.
A study “confirmed” the existence of the G-spot
In 2012, Florida-based gynecologist Adam Ostrzenski, MD, wrote in The Journal of Sexual Medicine that he had identified the G-spot as an actual, physical structure for the first time. He made the discovery during post-mortem research (i.e. dissection) on an 83-year-old woman, and described a “well-delineated sac structure” on the vaginal wall measuring about 8 millimeters long, 3 millimeters thick, and .4 millimeters high.
But because the finding came from a dead woman, and this “sac” was never shown to be active in sexual arousal or orgasms, other doctors have expressed doubts about its significance. A 2014 review in the journal Clinical Anatomy points out that “Ostrzenski has an interest in proving the presence of a G-spot that should have been declared since he runs a cosmetic plastic gynecology clinic where the list of procedures includes G-Spot Augmentation.”
It’s been referred to as the “female prostate”
Some studies have described the G-spot as a “female prostate,” suggesting that the area may be similar in structure and function to the male organ located between the penis and the bladder. One comparison often made is that both spots, the G-spot in women and the prostate in men can trigger or contribute to orgasm when stimulated.
There’s another notable similarity between men’s and women’s anatomy in this area, as well. The region often described as the G-spot or G-zone includes two small structures called Skene’s glands. These glands produce a fluid that helps lubricate the female urethra and are thought to have some of the same components as the male prostate.
Some women say G-spot orgasms are more powerful
The question of whether vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms should truly be classified as different things is still up for debate in the medical world. But many women say that orgasms involving stimulation of their G-spot feels unique, says Dr. Komisaruk.
“The nerves that convey clitoral sensation are different from the pelvic and vagus nerves that convey vaginal sensation,” says Dr. Komisaruk, “so it is not surprising that the orgasms that are stimulated by one or the other of these nerves feel different from each other.”
This phenomenon has been reported in medical literature, too. In studies from the 1970s, women described clitoral orgasms as “localized, intense, and physically satisfying,” and vaginal orgasms as “stronger and longer-lasting” and “more psychologically satisfying,” with “whole-body sensation” and “throbbing feelings.”