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“It is true that many women in India do not experience orgasms. The most common reason is their lack of understanding or acknowledging their physical needs,” says clinical psychologist Anindita Chowdhury.
Kolkata-based psychotherapist Mansi Poddar says it’s important to understand that women need more than penetrative sex to orgasm. “It is perfectly normal if you don’t orgasm each time you have penetrative sex. Women are just not wired that way,” she says.
Sex educator Pallavi Barnwal says she frequently meets women who don’t climax due to lack of foreplay and clitoral stimulation. “One of my clients came to me and said that sex was yet another mundanity in her married life. This dissatisfaction turned into frustration she said she felt numb during intercourse.”
Upon further digging, Barnwal discovered that the husband in question approached sex as if it were a mechanical activity. “She wanted her husband to make lovemaking special and worthwhile, but clearly he was only interested in penetration. I advised her to tell him that he was not doing enough to turn her on,” Barnwal says.
Ruchika, a 35-year-old single mom, says penetrative sex is overrated. “Foreplay in bed is an arousal for me. I have noticed that I orgasm when there’s a lot of or oral sex involved. Like every woman, every vagina is different. There are different ways to please every woman. But just penetration hardly ever works.”